Yes, we home school. Take a deep breath – okay. Don’t flip out on me, or give me one of those looks, you know what I mean. Yes, we are very normal. In fact, probably too normal.
After 4 years of homeschooling I feel I’ve learned a few things along the way. Some good and some bad. It’s difficult, not always easy, and there are days all of us would wonder if we made the right decision.
- Schedule, schedule, schedule……..did you guess it. I like a schedule and I like to stick to that schedule. Now this doesn’t always work with kids. Things change, sometimes on the spur of the moment. But I have learned that if I have a schedule and TRY to stick to it then so does everyone else. They understand that these things, school, has to be done and we need to sit down and focus to get it done daily. We start everyday at 8:15am and my kids know that 8:15 they had better be on the way up the stairs or sitting down at their desks. Now does this always happen, NO, it does not, but most of the time, yes it does.
- It’s OK to not have a good day and throw in the towel for the day. We have totally had days where I looked at my girls and said, “Lets do something else today!” There are times when I am just not into it and neither are they. I try to recognize if one of us is having a bad day. Sometimes when one is having a bad day then all will end up having a bad day. We tend to take it out on each other and it’s just not worth it. For my sanity and theirs. I don’t want to fight with my kids, especially over school. It brings negativity into the house and our classroom, and that’s a never-ending cycle. One that I will try to stop prior to it starting. So let it go for the day and give everyone a break. Kids need a mental health day right along with adults!
- Patience! This is a big one. Learning patience!!! This is hard, trust me, this is hard. I have learned to pick my battles, especially when you spend a lot of time together. I try to understand that I have a teenager and preteen, and they want to feel like they can get their way and they want to feel like what they think is important. Yes, I am the parent, but I also know that harmony in my household means compromise. Pick the battles.
- Listening. This is key. Always try to listen to what they are saying or not saying. I always try to listen to what my girls are telling me and what they need from me. They will tell me if I really listen. Maybe not directly, but indirectly. Through their actions. Paying attention and listening to my girls is huge for me. I am trying to raise very smart and independent girls and I want them to know that what they say is important and worth listening to.
I decided to stay home 14 years ago and that has changed my life forever. I was very work oriented and couldn’t imagine being a stay at home mom, let alone a mom who homeschooled her kids, but here I am. My children are my legacy. They are what will be left of me when I am gone and that’s what matters most!