Grace is now a freshman at high school and is very successful. Yes, she has her days where it’s a struggle, especially at the beginning of the school year. Her hours were different than what she was use to and she couldn’t create her own time line! But guess what, she is successful. She has drive, motivation, and is hungry for success. She wants to be her own boss and be in control of her future. Now, I am not saying that homeschooling instilled that in her, but I do believe that it instilled in her a sense of confidence. Confidence in herself that she could get things done, she could work on her own, and that she has control over her schedule. It created a sense of independence in her that many kids don’t have today.
Faith is still here at home (not sure she will ever leave, joking) and I am beginning to see that sense of independence in her. She is beginning to work more independently on her own and not rely upon me so much. She is exploring and answering her own questions, most of the time. She is currently working on finishing up 6th grade and preparing for 7th grade, which is a difficult transition. Let me tell you, I am not easy on my kids. I want them to know that this is hard and it’s harder than public school. They very rarely get to sleep in and sometimes were are doing school at 10:00pm. In fact, just last night I was helping here with math at 9:45pm, and that’s okay.
So why don’t I love homeschooling……because it is hard. It’s not only hard for my kids but it’s hard and extremely time consuming for myself. I am very particular on what they are doing. What curriculum I am using and if it’s working or not. What books are they reading and are they writing good content. It’s WORK!!!!! Yes, people homeschooling is work for me! I don’t just sit around all day watching TV and eating bonbons! Nope! I am either helping my kids through a lesson or I am actually teaching them that lessons. I grade all their work and input grades into a program that I love.
Another reason that I am not always fond of homeschooling…my kids don’t always corporate! They are kids and they don’t always want to get up and get going. They don’t always want to do school, and sometimes that okay, but sometimes it’s not! Sometimes I feel like they take advantage of the situation and try to get out of school and get out of the difficult assignments, can’t say I really blame them!
None of these things though are good enough reasons for me not to do it. When we started this 5 years ago I knew it would be a challenge and that there would be difficult days. I knew there would be days that I really didn’t like my kids and they didn’t like me. I knew that there would be times when I would want to throw in the towel and say “I give up” but I don’t. I stick with it. My motivation to stick with it is simple…… I am fortunate enough to have a supporting husband and we both want what’s best for our kids. So I don’t have to work, I can use my time to enrich my children’s lives. I can use my time to help them learn and grow. I can use my time to make them better people. Yes, my girls and I spend a lot of time together, and that’ not a bad thing. I actually like my children. I actually like the little humans I am raising. We are extremely close and I attribute that to our homeschooling.
Grace and Faith both feel like they can come to me with anything and they won’t be judge or put down. They are not afraid to tell when they messed up, because they know that I am here to help them, not criticize them. I know there are people out there, even in our family, that don’t understand the relationship I have with my girls, but that’s okay. I don’t care if they like the relationship I have with my kids or not, guess what, it doesn’t matter what other peoples opinions are, because it’s just that, their opinion! They will either get over it or they won’t and that’s okay! All in all, I am instilling my values, our family values in our children, not someone else’s. Not someone else’s ideas, thoughts on the world, and their views – MINE!
In short, I love my kids and I do enjoy homeschooling them, I don’t always love it, but I absolutely love them and wouldn’t trade this time I’ve had with them for the world!