Here in Kansas we have been on lockdown for a little over a month. All of the COVID-19, shelter in place, happened while we were on spring break. So Grace has been home from school for about a month now. She is what’s leading me to write this post today.
Being 16 is difficult no matter what and I’m sure that having a mom that’s a psychologists and constantly giving you advice on how to act, how to feel, and what to do to change doesn’t help either! Let me tell you what I’ve noticed with her and with Faith, as far as that goes, over these last few weeks.
First off, they are both really doing well giving what is going on. We live on 10 acres so really that does help. They can go outside and not see anyone and get lost for awhile. They can go ride horses, play with the chickens, or ducks as far as that goes. We’ve spent the last week working on building fence and planting a small garden inside that fence (we don’t want the ducks and chickens to get in and eat everything before we get a chance to!). We’ve planted some herbs in flower pots and now just waiting to for the weather to be a bit more consistent to plant some flowers.
I’ve noticed with Grace that she is struggling with just things in general. She likes a schedule and a routine and that was totally taken away. She has been going through small bouts of what I would call anxiety and a little bit of sadness. I notice when she has zoom meetings for school or any instrumental lessons she is much happier. She needs that interaction. This is my kid that I really thought would be fine. When she was homeschooled she was fine with not having a lot of friends and not having a lot of interaction with people. Now that she’s attending high school and has a small set of friends and constantly busy with band, choir, and musicals she thrives on that interaction. She needs that interaction – and guess what THAT’S OKAY! I am okay with her being a little bit in the dumps on some days. Now, I am not okay with it happening daily. Right now life is so strange for all of us and none of us really know how to approach it and THAT’S OKAY!
I have really urged my kids to get a routine, get a schedule. Faith has a daily routine/schedule because she is homeschooled and it was very easy for her to slip right back into her daily routine when all of this happened. What she isn’t use to is not having swim practice, going to band, and violin. She does get a bit bored on some days when her school work is done. But she’s beginning to find ways to cope/deal with that. She has started walking on my treadmill, taking walks outside. She’s helped build fence and she’s been mowing lawns. Really, Faith is adjusting extremely well. Which I am surprised! I really thought it would be the other way around.
Get a schedule going. Write it down and do it daily. It takes about 30 days to create a new routine and to really stick with it. I swear by my daily routine. I get up at the same time everyday and I do that exact same thing every morning. It’s what keeps me going. It’s what motivates me.
I’m listening to a book right now called “The 5 second rule” by Mel Robbins and what she is saying to me rings true……once you decide to do something don’t think about it give it 5 seconds and act on it. DO IT!! Otherwise you will crush it. Don’t give your self that option to hit the snooze button when your alarm goes off….get up and go. Hit the ground running. Right there you have accomplished your first task of the day and it’s off to a great start. Don’t allow yourself to fail when you haven’t even started your day. Get up and get moving. I promise you this will make all the difference. Just start here…get up, brush your teeth, and head out to your living room, or just jump in the shower.
For me I get up, brush my teeth, grab my workout clothes laying by the bathroom door, change, and head into the kitchen to unload the dishwasher, feed the cat and dog, eat, watch the news, workout. Literally, I will watch the clock and say “Well it’s 7am I need to go workout” and I get up and go! Now it’s taken me a very long time to be this disciplined and I will tell you that when I don’t do this I do feel a bit sluggish and tired all day. As soon as my workout is done I am outside feeding and taking care of all my animals. Then it’s back inside to start the rest of my day! By the time I know it the day is about over.
Encourage your kids and yourself to start a new daily routine. Your mind and body wants to know what to expect daily. It will help stabilize your mood and your days will go better.
Right now stay home and be safe. Enjoy your family and be healthy with them. Teach your kids some good healthy habits. Drink water and move your body daily!